Life is great. You have accomplished all the goals you have set, and your family is well and…………..BAM! Disappointment hits you like a baseball thrown at 100 miles per hour! Does this sound familiar? If not, you are one of the luckiest people in this world. I have experienced this scenario many times during my life.
People try to be empathetic and sympathetic in their approach to comfort you, but there is not much truth or value in their words. You hear things like: “It will all workout” “I am sorry to hear that.” “There is light at the end of the tunnel.” These statements fall short of a resolution, and leaves the person even more confused with false hope. Often times, it leaves one to commit the same act and expect a different result, only to be even more disappointed than before.
I am not a pessimist. I believe that every situation has a resolution. The key is finding the appropriate resolution and not necessarily the quickest. In my experience, the loss of confidence is inevitable with each disappointment if not handled correctly. Continuous disappointment will definitely bring doubt. You start to doubt your decision making practices. You may even start to doubt that you are on the right path. These doubts are valid. In order to make your detour valuable to you, you must take it as a lesson and create a better plan. The only advice I seek is advice that leads me to a better path.
Final thoughts……When you are continuously knocked down it can be harder each time to get back up. The most frustrating thing is believing that you are doing all the right things, but failure is the result. A dream is nothing without action. While completing goals, we have to remember that detours should be expected. How we handle these detours will determine our successes. Disappointment is a part of life, but you choose if these are lessons or your demise.